positive thinking

Tend To Your Secret Garden…

March 12, 2010 – 5:34 pm

Weed out disappointments, frustrations, diminished ambitions, unfulfilled expectations and anger about what has gone before or what has not yet come.

To take control of your health, you need to first activate your emotional and mental well being. Yes, we can eat healthy foods, drink more water each day, add fiber to our diet, take vitamins and even exercise. However, all these will be little steps and will not be as beneficial, if we do not find peace within.

Stress and inner conflicts such as disappointments, frustrations, anger, etc. affect our physical health. These things become chronic stressors on our system. Cortisol increases which in turn forces our adrenal glands to over work. We lose energy. We then don’t sleep well. Chronic fatigue sets in. It becomes a vicious cycle that taxes more of our organs and our physical health slowly deteriorates.

Therefore, addressing physical needs does not take care of the root cause. Our emotional well being is where it all begins. By letting go of the past and being in control of the present, you will look forward to the future. Your physical health will be so much stronger. You will be productive and like who you are.

The best way to tend to your emotional and mental well being is to strengthen you self-image. And of course, to do that you use Positive Self-Talk every day! Make it a part of your day. Remind yourself that you are special and you can accomplish anything you put your mind to.

Set those goals and listen to the Positive Self-Talk CD’s. Get direction, support and encouragement from me, a certified Life Coach. I can keep you focused and motivated as you work toward nurturing your well being.

Remember: Tend To Your Secret Garden first to start the Natural Healing of your whole body.

By Susan | Posted in Motivation, My Blog | Tagged emotional well being, physical needs, positive thinking, take control of health| Comments (0)

Our Choice

October 30, 2009 – 6:57 pm

We all face adversity in life, it’s how we react to it that determines our joy in life.

When we deal with our everyday life, we can become overwhelmed. We can lose our motivation to continue on. Our failures from the past cause us to second guess ourselves and in turn, we question why we should keep trying.

During these times, it is important that we focus on the challenge at hand and remind ourselves that each day is a new day. Failures or mistakes can help us learn and become stronger in our belief in ourselves. This helps us look forward and realize that we can make our present better.

We have the ability and the choice to make our present time as positive as we want. Challenges can be seen as a heart ache, as an insurmountable event. We can beat ourselves up and question why this is happening to us or we will never get over such a happening.

However, trying to see the positive in a situation can help us bring good things to us. Yes, it isn’t always easy but if we practice thinking and saying positive things during the good times, we will be able to find the positive thought to say when we are fasted with adversity.

We can start listening to ourselves when we talk to someone. When the conversation is over, we write down or ask ourselves, “How could we have said that in a more positive way?” We try to ‘catch’ ourselves being negative and rephrase the statement with positive words.

Another way we can practice is to start a “Gratitude” Book. We begin with writing in a journal all the things we can think of that we are thankful for. Then each day we list at least three things that we are thankful for. Ideally, we do this twice a day, once in the am and once before we go to sleep. We do this for at least 30 days so it becomes a habit.

Each day we have a choice to face life in a positive way or in a negative way, no matter what comes our way. We are blessed with choice. Only we determine what kind of day and life we will have.

Remember: We all face adversity in life, it’s how we react to it that determines our joy in life.

By Susan | Posted in My Blog | Tagged adversity, choice, joy, positive thinking| Comments (0)

Strengthen Your Self-Esteem

May 14, 2009 – 7:00 pm

“Remember, no one can make you feel inferior with out your consent.” Elenore Roosevelt

Building our self-esteem begins with ourselves. Since we have been born, we have been hearing more negative comments than positive ones. These words have determined whether we believe in ourselves or not. It doesn’t matter if the words were true or not. Many times we sabotage ourselves because we believe that we can’t do something. We let those words from the past create our present.

However, it is those thoughts or conversations we have with ourselves that can help us to believe that we are capable of doing anything that we want to do. We can erase the negative words that keep racing in our heads and replace them with positive thinking.

When someone tells you that you look tired, instead of affirming that in your head, replace it with a positive thought like, “I feel energized or alert.” When you get negative feedback on your work, tell yourself that you are proud of yourself, that you did your best. You will take their suggestions but you know that you are a smart and intelligent person so you will learn from the experience.

Be your best friend. Start by being aware of the negative thoughts you have. If it helps, keep a tally. Then try to lessen the negative thoughts and increase the positive thoughts each day. When you get a negative thought, STOP, and try to change that thought into positive words. If it helps, talk to yourself out loud when you are alone. Do this for at least 30 days. The better you get at this, the more you will see that when someone says something demeaning to you, the words are less hurtful. You are able to let the words roll off your back because you know you are a great person. You are sure of your self-worth and any hurtful words or actions by others are their problem, not yours.

“Remember, no one can make you feel inferior with out your consent.” Repeat this each day till you believe it.

Should you want to work more on your self-esteem, contact me at susanlifecoach@gmail.com or call me at 585-346-7334. I can show you how to change your life through positive self-talk.

By Susan | Posted in My Blog | Tagged positive thinking, self-esteem| Comments (0)

To Have The Will and The Faith

April 4, 2009 – 2:18 pm

“The only thing that stands between a person and what they want in life is the will to try it and the faith to believe it’s possible.”

There are so many obstacles, road blocks and doubts in each of our lives that it is easy to lose sight of what we dream about or really want. If we break it down into simple parts, we can see how we can overcome the difficulties and achieve anything we want. Our self-esteem is the foundation or key to getting what we really want. The more positive our self-esteem is, the stronger our Will and our Faith. Therefore, our first focus needs to be on ridding ourselves of the negatives and increasing the positives in our thinking and in our actions.

So take the saying and make it your own – write the words, post them and repeat them out loud often.

“The only thing that stands between me and what I want in my life is The Will to try it and The Faith to believe it’s possible.”