What do we do when we know we need to make changes in our life but don’t know how to make that move, aren’t motivated or are fearful? Sometimes it is easier to stay where we are, even if it hurts, rather than challenge ourselves. Why do we want to possibly fail?
Here are a few things that might MOVE YOU FORWARD:
1. Focus on doing one new thing. Little steps lead to big steps. It could be as simple as speaking first when you see someone new or listening to a relaxation tape to get started in letting go of anxiety. Writing down one goal for the week and focusing on that might be a first step or practice saying positive things one day, etc. Remember that it took a long time to get where you are now so it will take a while to get where you want to go. Compliment yourself for that little step that you do take.
2 Perhaps asking yourself some questions will motivate or direct you to where you want to be. See if any of these questions help to motivate or guide you to action:
What possibilities for action exist?
What can I do?
What am I willing to do to get what I WANT?
If I wanted to be fully self-responsible right now, what would I be doing?
3. Make a list of what can happen to you if you make a change in your life. Then star the one thing that would be the worst that could happen. Now go through the list and ask yourself what you could do if that happened. Remember that you are in control of your life.
4. Listen to this presentation on fear by Steven Horne. http://www.treelite.com/downloads.php You might find some of his suggestions helpful.
5. Tell yourself: My response is my responsibility. It is easy to blame others or circumstances for the unhappiness we feel about our life. However, that doesn’t help us find the inner happiness or peace we are looking for. Our actions and attitude make the difference and guide us to where we want to go. Believe in yourself.
It is your time to MOVE FORWARD and to take control of your life. There is no perfect path to follow so if you make a mistake or falter in your steps that is ok. We learn from mistakes. At least you are trying to reach for what you really want.
YOU ARE IN CONTROL OF YOU!